Part of stoking your self-esteem is allowing yourself the time, space, and supplies to just be you—to enjoy taking part in the activities that you choose.
If you’ve found yourself feeling angry, resentful, or just empty lately, maybe it’s time to get back into doing what you love to do.
Recognize that doing something you love ignites your passion for life. You tend to be good at things you like to do. People will praise your efforts. You’ll feel great about doing what you love. In essence, your self-esteem can be found by doing your special pastime.
Focus your efforts. Rather than trying three new activities or hobbies you want to explore, pick one that you get excited about. Then, channel your efforts into that hobby. You’ll see yourself getting better and better and it will feel marvelous!
Schedule “fun time” into your appointment book. When you do what you love on a regular basis (at least once weekly), your interest and excitement in the activity is piqued. You have something to look forward to. You want to learn more and do more. It’s exhilarating.
There’s no easier way to get excited about life than to get in to something you really want to do.
How can you not feel better about yourself when you’re taking part in activities you adore? When you do those things, you develop more passion in your life. Immerse yourself into your beloved hobbies and you will truly enhance your self-esteem.
Concentrate on Being a Great Partner or Parent
When you demonstrate who the most important people in your life are, something wonderful happens. The relationships bloom and so does your self-esteem.
Review the strategies below to increase your efforts to be a fabulous partner or parent and in turn, cultivate your self-esteem and happiness:
Notice what you’re good at in your role as a partner or parent. Pat yourself on the back. Recognizing your strengths in your relationship will help you realize what a giving, caring person you are.
Decide what you can do to improve as a partner, mother, or father. And then do it. Perhaps you could deepen your relationships with your kids by spending one-on-one time with each of them every week. In your partner relationship, bring some romance to the time you spend together to re-ignite sparks and keep the fires of romantic passion burning.
You’ll boost your positive feelings about yourself when you work to be a better partner or parent.
Find the joy in your role. What is it about being a mom, dad, wife, husband, or partner that makes you happy? Recognize there was a time in your life when you likely yearned to be in the very role you now have. Take some time to find the real satisfaction and joy in your important life role(s).
Immerse yourself in the joy of the stage of life you find yourself in right now. Notice the attraction you feel toward your partner. Smile at your child’s sweet ways. Recognize all that is good, fresh, and true around you.
Identify with your gratitude for your partner or children. It’s easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of working and paying the bills. Take some moments to give thanks for those special people in your life.
When you recognize the fascinating, loving people you have close to you, you’ll realize you must be a pretty worthy person, too.
Refuse to take your relationship for granted. Stay in tune emotionally with the people closest to you. Notice their wants and needs. Be there for that special someone as much as you can.
When you connect with the fact that neither of you really have to be where you are, you can see that you each chose the other. And that’s pretty awesome, don’t you think?
Focusing your efforts to be the best partner or parent you can be will bring incredible feelings of passion, joy, and self-satisfaction to your life. Figure out what you’re good at and determine the areas you need to work on. See the fun and joy in your role.
Let yourself feel thankful and vow to never take your relationship for granted. Your self-esteem will bloom.
“Tell me how a person judges his or her self-esteem and I will tell you how that person operates at work, in love, in sex, in parenting, in every important aspect of existence - and how high he or she is likely to rise. The reputation you have with yourself - your self-esteem - is the single most important factor for a fulfilling life.” ~Nathaniel Branden
The state of your physical self is an integral aspect to how you feel about yourself. Think about the time, effort, and money you put in to your physical appearance. Regular haircuts, professional shaves, facials, manicures, pedicures, and nice clothes are investments, not only in your appearance, but your self-esteem as well.
Try these tips for keeping up your physical appearance to build your self-esteem:
Take part in regular physical activity at least four times a week. Exercising five or six times weekly is even better.
When you exercise consistently you look better. Your skin is clearer. Your eyes are brighter. You appear more toned. And you walk with a certain renewed sense of confidence.
Become good at one sport. Read about it. Study it. Practice it. Make it your “thing.” When you do, you’ll feel physically stronger. And when you feel physically stronger, your confidence thrives.
People will come to you and ask your advice on the sport. You’ll feel proud about what you know and how you excel.
Discover a hair style or haircut that’s exactly right for you. A good barber or hair dresser can help. Rather than continually try to change your hair to go with the trends, instead, find the right cut for you that consistently looks great.
Take care of your skin. Whether you’re male or female, take care of your skin, especially your face.
Check out the cosmetics counter at a local department store and inquire about an effective skin care regimen. Don’t forget some body lotion for your arms and legs, too.
Wear good-fitting, classic clothing. Your clothes don’t have to be expensive, but they should fit and flatter your body. If you struggle to select the styles that look best on you, ask for help when you’re shopping. Or seek assistance from a friend who always looks fantastic.
Even a small wardrobe of 8-10 high quality, nice-fitting pieces that mix and match can make you feel really great about yourself.
You’ve probably suspected that how you care for yourself physically is connected with how you feel overall about yourself. Take pride in how you appear physically and self-esteem will grow.
“Regardless of how you feel inside, always try to look like a winner. Even if you are behind, a sustained look of control and confidence can give you a mental edge that results in victory.” ~Arthur Ashe